August 15, 2013 |
If you're an Internet troll, you may feel a little put-upon right now. Used to be you had a home. You could always find an online discussion to muck up with a disruptive, offensive, or off-point rant. Some sites - like celebrity-gossip and sports venues - even welcomed the snark, the rough-and-tumble, the occasional hater. Under the anonymity granted to most commenters, trolls have hidden in the bushes as long as there's been a Web. But that is changing. To raise the level of talk, more and more online newspapers, blogs, and other websites are instituting anti-troll measures.
March 26, 2013 |
Adapted from a recent online discussion. Question: My husband and I have recently moved closer to our families, and a problem that was minor has now become larger. When I was growing up, my mother assigned "roles" to me and my sisters (e.g., the good student, the social butterfly, the independent one) that were somewhat based on our personalities, but I believe were a shortcut for her to figure out how to deal with us. We've all spent a lot of time as adults breaking out of these roles, and in many cases, when my mother's ideas have clearly been superseded, she still will just not give them up. For example, I was always the chubby sister, and now even after I have lost weight and kept it off, she still treats me that way. She is now doing this to my children, and it's driving me nuts.
March 26, 2013 |
Adapted from a recent online discussion. Question: When I was 16, I came home to my mom sneaking out of our house with her belongings and my younger brother. She was leaving my stepdad, and me, too. She left us a note on the kitchen table. After watching my stepdad go through the motions of moving out and not asking me to go with him, it became clear I was on my own. I called relatives, and the consensus was it was none of their business. After years of no communication, I called my dad, and he let me move in with him. Come to find out, he was a nice person who made me feel wanted for six great years.
March 15, 2013 |
Adapted from a recent online discussion. Question: I'm a high school junior and I hate it. I am not bullied, but I don't have a lot of friends and the whole thing is just ridiculous. I am already taking a few AP courses and finally talked to my guidance counselor today about graduating early. He said I can if I really buckle down, take on some independent study, and do one GED requirement class online. School is pretty easy for me, and I don't have any other distractions.
March 8, 2013 |
Adapted from a recent online discussion. Question: Long story short, my boyfriend of over a year broke up with me three weeks ago. For a few reasons, our "future" is up in the air while he figures his issues out. This is where I'm having my own issues, aside from being pretty devastated by the breakup itself. While I would be so happy to be back together right now, I'm trying to deal with things as if we are broken up for good. The only way I know how to deal with that is to completely cut someone out of my life, though.
March 5, 2013 |
Adapted from a recent online discussion. Question: I've recently started dating someone who is much less communicative than I am. I think we like each other, but is this a red flag? I tend to be an over-communicator, so I'm not sure if my way is really the correct way to do things, so I'm hesitant in ending some- thing over a differ- ence like this. Answer: The thing is, there's no "right" way to commu- nicate except to be honest and true to yourself. If you feel happier and more fulfilled around people who share your emotional style, then don't apologize for that - heed it, and know you have every right to break up with anyone who doesn't feel like a good fit. If you're naturally outgoing, then don't apologize for that, either.
March 4, 2013 |
Adapted from a recent online discussion. Question: I want to try for another baby; my husband doesn't. We have two beautiful children and a happy family, but I always wanted more. We started later than planned, and we're both late 30s, so he's concerned about health risks (mostly for the would-be child), being that much older when the child graduates high school, etc., and to a lesser extent, the additional stress, strain on finances, etc. If I really, really pushed, I know he'd give in - he has said as much - and I know that's not right.
February 28, 2013 |
Adapted from a recent online discussion. Question: I have never been skinny, but have gone up and down in weight over the last couple of years. I am fun, smart, have a good job, and am a size 14/16. I dress well and have a ton of friends who like me. The problem? My husband of seven years, partner of much more. He always makes weight and exercise comments to me. And whenever I tell him how much it hurts or bothers me, he says I am scarred from my childhood and I am unable to have a talk about my weight or exercise without getting upset.
February 27, 2013 |
Adapted from a recent online discussion. Question: My amazing, wonderful fiance made what he has referred to as "a very bad decision" and got married at 20, while he was still in college. He was divorced by 23, and not amicably. We met and began dating a few years later, and he was very open about it from the get-go. Throughout our four-year relationship, the fact that he was briefly married has barely registered as a blip on my radar; people make mistakes. But suddenly, now that we are engaged and beginning to plan our wedding, I can't seem to stop dwelling on the fact that he once publicly promised to spend his life with someone else.
February 19, 2013 |
Adapted from a recent online discussion. Question: My husband eats lunch with coworkers every day. I joined them out recently and one of his single, female coworkers began eating off his plate. When I noticed, she snatched back her hand. My husband is pretty familiar with his coworkers, but I'm sure he would be livid that a single, male coworker was eating off my plate, especially if it appeared to be a habit. I'm not worried even remotely that he's cheating on me (and wouldn't read this as evidence he was)