October 15, 2015 |
When Vanessa, near the end of her second trimester, woke up to a bed wet with amniotic fluid and blood, she was certain this pregnancy was a gamble gone bad. She and Kevin already had one child - 3-year-old Brooke, a surprise baby who was born on Halloween. Kevin, a police sergeant accustomed to 12-hour overnight shifts, recalls feeling slammed by sleep deprivation. Vanessa missed the freedom they'd had as a childless couple, the days of sipping wine in a gondola on the way to a Napa winery.
September 16, 2015
D EAR ABBY: I'm a few months pregnant and married to a man I love with all my heart. We have a young son together. For the past couple of months, I have had severe morning sickness, and my husband seems to resent me for it. He complains that I "don't do anything anymore," but I have been so ill that some days it's all I can do to get to work in the morning. I try to help out as much as I can, but it doesn't seem to be enough. Lately he has shown no interest in me or the pregnancy.
September 4, 2015 |
From the column archives. Question: I recently learned we are pregnant with our third baby, the same gender as the other two. Husband is very disappointed that we aren't having his gender preference, and I am, too, a bit, but mostly trying to stay positive. Husband went from being superexcited about the pregnancy, and suggesting I "take it easy" and get pedicures, offering to cook, etc., to standard basic help around the house. He never asks how I am feeling or offers to step up his help.
August 26, 2015
YO, WHERE'S the sisterhood? I don't expect a lot of men to be all that supportive of the unique challenges expectant mothers face. That's not their issue. But I am surprised at the number of women online who've been giving CBS3's Katie Fehlinger a hard time, with one even calling her a "sausage in casing. " It's the Mommy Wars all over again, but with a twist. What they're doing to Fehlinger is called pregnancy shaming, and it's been happening ever since the TV meteorologist's pregnancy first became noticeable at the two-month mark.
August 24, 2015
CAN'T A PREGNANT woman catch a break? Apparently not as CBS3/CW Philly meteorologist Katie Fehlinger has discovered since becoming pregnant with twin girls. Some morons don't like seeing her baby bump and have been body shaming her. They need to get over it. You'd think certain people had never seen a pregnant woman before. Ever since getting around the two-month mark, certain viewers have been sending insulting comments and emails to Fehlinger, including calling her a "sausage in casing.
August 21, 2015 |
Question: What's the best way to involve my husband in my pregnancy so he doesn't feel left out? He's a very hands-on type who loses interest in anything he can't sink his teeth into, and I'm afraid he won't believe we're really having a baby until the child is actually born. Answer: Is there anything wrong with that? You say "left out," but I'm not sure how one can both lose interest and feel left out. It sounds more as though he's just not that interested right now - meaning you feel a little lonely.
June 27, 2015 |
Question: I have a problem I am not proud of. My daughter is pregnant, and, so far, everything in her pregnancy is routine. When I was pregnant with our three kids, my husband was typical for our generation in terms of the involvement he showed during my pregnancy and even my kids' infant years. But now that our daughter is pregnant, he has shown more interest in her than pretty much every pregnancy I had combined. He downloaded an app for his phone that gives weekly updates of the baby's size, changed all his photos to the ultrasound photo, and even spent hours researching car seats for our car so we can drive the baby around.
June 24, 2015 |
Adapted from a recent online discussion. Question: A friend confided that she is pregnant and feeling decidedly unexcited about it. Her current life checks all of the boxes for "ready for baby" - including a lovely, excited husband. She doesn't seem depressed, just reasonably apprehensive about how much her life is about to change and whether she is ready for a child. What is the best way to be a supportive friend in this situation? I don't have children myself, and all of my previously pregnant friends have been excited about their pregnancies - even as they expressed reasonable reservations about childbirth, never sleeping again, the usual.
June 18, 2015 |
It's a pregnancy test that is biodegradable and can be flushed down the toilet. Bethany Edwards, CEO and co-founder of LIA Diagnostics, hopes her credit-card-sized device will become a force in the vast pregnancy home test market and be ready for sale online by the end of 2016. "Pregnancy test kits are one-time use and made of plastic so they aren't environmentally friendly," said Edwards, 30. "There's also no privacy in the current test kits as they can easily be discovered in the trash.
February 26, 2015 |
People told them to forget about restaurant dinners and first-run movies. They cautioned that sleep would be a scarce commodity. They advised the couple to expect conflict in the first mind-spinning weeks of parenting. People said a lot of things. Abby and Brent decided to ignore most of them. "The biggest advice we decided not to listen to was people saying we wouldn't be able to do the same things as before," Abby says. That includes academia, activism and adventure racing, the couple's shared passion: an ultra-endurance sport that combines paddling, mountain-biking and trekking - while navigating only with a map and compass - in wilderness settings around the world.