June 16, 2013 |
RALEIGH, N.C. - When his wife died of cancer at age 39, Bruce Ham wondered whether the laughter would ever return to the house he and their three daughters share. "And it is back. It took awhile, but it is back," Ham said, more than three years after the death of his wife, Lisa. "I still miss her. I think about her every day. But I don't cry every time I think about her. I smile and laugh. It's good to be on that side of grief. " A group that organizers say may be the only one of its kind in the country helped him on his journey to that other side.
January 26, 2012 |
EVERYWHERE Darrell Clarke goes, there's a question that follows like a lost and hungry junkyard dog: Who is he, really? Superficial answers are easy to come by. He's the new president of City Council. Got his first big job in politics three decades ago, working as an aide to then-Councilman John Street. Took the reins of Street's North Philadelphia district when Street ran for mayor. But what's there, underneath the big title and job description? Answering that question, figuring out what makes the man who is now the second-most-powerful politician in the city tick, has long seemed like a fool's errand.
April 5, 2011
Moms on TV commercials are scarily omniscient, possessing Ph.D.-level knowledge of the gastrointestinal tract, sinuses, and peanut butter ("choosy mothers" and all that). Caring for kids with supreme efficiency, they lullaby and shepherd, empower and embrace. "Where," my daughter asked me one morning as we watched the endless mercantile momma-thons, "are the daddies?" Thank you, baby. The message from the tube - and the entire culture, for that matter - is that women are the superior parents, biologically built for the job. Fathers, on the other hand, are good only for barbecues and oil changes - just glorified baby-sitters, really, slightly less reliable than that nice 14-year-old Tiffany from down the street.
April 17, 2009
HOW SAD that a 9-year-old lost his life at the hands of a calculating predator who his mother let stay with him, even after she knew her child was being abused by this monster. How sad that the biological "father" is angry. Why now? Where was he when his child was being abused? Single ladies, please stop "pimping your children" by letting men stay in your home to abuse them. Single fathers, even if you're not with your baby's mother, please check on your children. Please don't cop out and let them down by not being in their lives.
March 7, 2008 |
As relatives prepared funeral services for the single father of a 6-year-old boy, school administrators were making sure the victim's son has the education his father wanted. David Atkins, 43, of the 1600 block of Staub Street in Nicetown, was gunned down early Saturday morning after he was awakened by a knock at the door. The motive for the shooting remains a mystery to investigators, who believe the son witnessed part of the attack. Today, family and friends will attend services for Atkins, a former altar boy who worked as a glass cleaner for Wachovia and a security guard at Temple University Hospital to send his son, David, to St. Martin de Porres Interparochial School.
November 24, 2005 |
Here on the home front - a one-bathroom rowhouse in Olney - reveille sounds most days at 5 a.m. "Come on, T. " Thelma Adams resists the gentle nudge from her husband. Exhausted, she clings to the last few moments of a desperate sleep. But by 5:30, she rises. Nine sleeping children depend on her at home. Ten ladies in a nursing home rely on her at work. And Adams never forgets that her daughter in Iraq - a single mother of six - counts on her to hold the family together.
May 11, 2003 |
The 8-year-old won't take the 29th no for an answer. The 2-year-old is climbing the TV stand like Mallory headed up Everest, just because it's there. The parental impulse is to scream. Instead, Valerie Weber speed-dials. At the other end of the line is a placid voice dispensing advice to the mother on raising two little rascals. Put your hand firmly on the toddler's back and lead him away from the TV. Send his big brother to a secluded spot, a "self-quieting place. " The counselor isn't Grandma or Auntie or a best friend, but a pro - a "parent coach," on call to talk you through the mystery and madness of rearing children.
June 17, 2002 |
Beneath the rustling oaks of Fairmount Park, the apostles of fatherhood gathered around a smoky barbecue pit, cooking meat and preaching their ancient solution to a modern urban crisis. It was the biggest day of the year for the Father's Day Rally Committee, a grassroots African American group whose paternal mission has expanded considerably since the 1990 Philadelphia event at which it was founded. Across the city, other Father's Day picnics were getting under way in the same traditional fashion, with footballs, folding chairs, and a heap of hot dogs.
February 7, 1999 |
The Limited Too at Montgomery Mall attracts girls like a Leonardo DiCaprio movie. They admire awesome bell bottoms, criticize gross purple tights, run fingers along racks of cool silver earrings. And at the counter, mothers pay the bills. Nikki and Jaime Husband also cruise the aisles - sisters out on a Thursday evening in search of presents for weekend birthday parties. Ken Husband, 41, hovers nearby. He is their father, and the only man in the store. He approves of 10 1/2-year-old Nikki's selection of faded bell bottoms for herself, double-checking the size and grumbling over the well-worn look.
December 2, 1998 |
A Chester County program to turn young "deadbeat dads" into supportive fathers was awarded $1.6 million in grants yesterday. "Family Matters" was one of 10 programs nationwide to receive the grants from the federal government and a charitable foundation. The money will allow the collaborative project to become a national model in social service, said Troy Chapman, director of the Chester County Housing Authority, which runs the program with the county Domestic Relations Office.