July 1, 2016
DEAR ABBY: My brother, "Chris," is going through a divorce and lost his business. He is now lashing out at our mom and me when she spends time with me. When I tried to express my sympathy, Chris attacked me via direct message, saying I have a "charmed life and don't care about anyone - including him and our cash-strapped parents. " It started when Dad gave me a car he wasn't using before we learned about my brother's misfortune. When I tried to return it, Dad refused. Because I stopped responding to him on the internet, Chris is now complaining to Mom about my "selfishness.
June 15, 2016 |
Adapted from a recent online discussion. Question: My mother has extreme and dramatic sympathy for my brother, and it's driving me insane. Both he and his wife have lucrative medical careers, but my mother endlessly insists and has sympathy for how poor they are. She calls me telling me how they can't even afford groceries, while I watch them via social media travel around the country for fun on a monthly basis. I've tried reasoning with her, saying maybe they should get a more reasonable apartment if they really are struggling with money (no way they are)
March 26, 2016
ISSUE | MENTAL ILLNESS Sympathy for a troubled assailant While I hope the people injured by James Paulk recover, I don't blame Paulk ("Mother of alleged Dougherty assailant: 'He begs for help,' " Sunday). I blame the system that failed this young man. And I use the term system loosely, because there really is no mental health system to speak of in Pennsylvania. Care providers often leave families to deal with extremely complicated, heart-wrenching medical problems on their own. The justice system is no better, putting mentally ill people in jail instead of ordering treatment.
June 19, 2015 |
UNIVERSITY PLACE, Wash. - There is no NBA rule to make LeBron James self-deprecating. The NFL cannot force Marshawn Lynch to be a good sport, and Major League Baseball could never convince Barry Bonds to be pleasant. The same is true with Tiger. Neither the PGA Tour nor the USGA nor the legions of fans who follow him can coerce the most important golfer in history to be genuine or forthcoming about anything but the mechanics of the game. As he resumes his quest to catch Jack Nicklaus today at the U.S. Open, Woods becomes further diminished by the play and the personalties of his peers.
November 28, 2014
SYMPATHY IS EASY. You see someone in pain, you measure the depth of his anger by the fire in his eyes, you gauge his despair by the piercing tone of his lamentations and you stretch out a hand and say, "I'm so sorry. " You can be a part of his world for the few moments that you share the grief, and then you retreat to your comfortable corner. That bridge between you and the sufferer is one you cross over rarely, but it's a pleasant trip because it makes you feel generous without investing too much human capital.
November 21, 2014 |
Brett Brown softly slapped his left cheek, then slapped the right. It is time for everyone to wake up and face reality, the Sixers coach said. His young team is winless through 11 games, eight defeats away from the league record for the longest season-opening losing streak. A win on Friday against visiting Phoenix will be a challenge. "That's where we're at, everybody," he said. "And we're not crying about it. We don't want sympathy. We come to work. I get it. " The Sixers rank near the bottom this season in almost every statistical category.
November 18, 2014 |
LOOKS AS IF the Redskins have more problems than their politically incorrect nickname. On Sunday, quarterback Robert Griffin III shared his frustration after a 20-point loss to the visiting Buccaneers that dropped the 'Skins to 3-7. "It takes 11 men," said Griffin, who threw two interceptions, including one that was returned for a touchdown. "It doesn't take one guy, and that's proven. If you want to look at the good teams in this league and the great quarterbacks, the Peytons and the Aaron Rodgerses, those guys don't play well if their guys don't play well.
October 1, 2014 |
Why would an otherwise balanced person - a noted philanthropist and SPCA board member, no less - write a biography of one of history's most notorious, prolific serial killers? For Valerie Ogden, it was a family matter. The Chestnut Hill actor found out in 2009 that she was related by marriage to the 15th-century aristocrat Baron Gilles de Rais, who raped and killed hundreds of children. "My nephew was marrying this lovely French girl," said Ogden, whose authorial debut, Bluebeard: Brave Warrior, Brutal Psychopath (History Publishing; 295 pages; $18.95)
July 20, 2014 |
COMPARING the now-defunct Philadelphia Traffic Court to the minor leagues in baseball, defense lawyer Lou Busico hit what might be a home run yesterday during his closing argument in the federal corruption trial of six former judges and a Chinatown businessman. "Sorry guys, but this is like the minor leagues of the judiciary," he said. "This is like the sandlot of the judiciary. " Busico represents Thomasine Tynes, the retired president judge of Philadelphia Traffic Court. Tynes is charged with mail and wire fraud in what the government calls a widespread conspiracy of "ticket-fixing" that plagued the court from 2008 to 2011.
February 14, 2014
"I'M EMBARRASSED to beg for money, I'm embarrassed to beg for food. I never, ever in my life thought this would happen to me," says formerly middle-class John Ruths, face-to-face with the New America. John grew up in a nice home. His father a regional VP for Wonder Bread, his mother a registered nurse and teacher. The family "lived very comfortably" in Norristown, he went to private schools, John says, as we sit at the home desk from which he's pitched hundreds of job applications over the past year of his unemployment.