March 22, 2013
D EAR ABBY: My 87-year-old mother is narcissistic, self-absorbed and extremely cruel. When she says something or acts out, she'll say, "I am who I am, so don't expect me to change. " How can my sister and I deal with the needs of an elderly parent who continues to verbally and emotionally mistreat us and others? My sister is beginning to react in a defensive, angry manner (rightfully so), and all I do is cry and feel guilty for wanting to get away from her. - Wit's End in Loma Linda, Calif.
June 29, 2010 |
THE BARE, WHITE walls once held 130 awards and honors plaques. Now, after 45 years with the Philadelphia Police Department, Chief Inspector James Tiano was packing up his fourth-floor office at 10th and Spring Garden streets. "I've had a pretty good career," said Tiano, whose last workday is today. "I spent the latter part of my career helping a lot of diverse communities, so it was very satisfying. " Tiano, 65, served simultaneously as police liaison to the Asian-, African- and Caribbean-immigrant and lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender communities - and it has been announced that it's going to take eight deputies to replace him. His compassion for diversity was inspired by Italian-immigrant grandparents.
April 23, 2012 |
Bee Gees brother Robin Gibb has shaken off his night fever and is stayin' alive. According to the BBC, Gibb's doctor at the London Clinic, Dr. Andrew Thillainayagam, said the longtime pop star was conscious, lucid and talking with his loved ones. Gibb, who is amazingly only 62 considering the Bee Gees had hits in the 1960s, had been in a coma for 12 days. Dr. T. said that Gibb was tired but that "it is testament to [his] extraordinary courage, iron will and deep reserves of physical strength that he has overcome quite incredible odds to get where he is now. " Gibb had been battling colon and liver cancer, which was thought to be in remission, when he got pneumonia because of his weakened immune system.
September 18, 2008 |
In an interview with Mark Segal of the Philadelphia Gay News, Barack Obama indicated that he would not proceed unilaterally in fulfilling his promise to do away with the "don't ask, don't tell" policy for gays in the military. Instead, the Democratic presidential candidate said that he would work through a step-by-step process with the military brass. "The reason," Obama said, "is because I want to make sure that when we revert 'don't ask, don't tell,' it's gone through a process and we've built a consensus or at least a clarity of that, of what my expectations are, so that it works.
February 6, 2004 |
All I can say is, thank God for the Supreme Court of Massachusetts. The court ruled Wednesday that the state legislature may not offer "civil unions" instead of marriage for same-sex couples. That means the state must recognize marriage between people of the same sex. If it all comes to pass, these will be the first officially state-recognized same-sex marriages in U.S. history. You might not think I welcome this mistaken decision. And you'd be right. But at least now, all Americans know what the true cultural battleground is: marriage.
May 12, 2008
Education is a must on transgender issue Marybeth Hagan's May 8 commentary, "School's sensitivity is off-target," left me with this message: that a transgender child poses some kind of threat to the school and would be better off "separated" from his peers or "hidden" at home. As an early childhood education administrator, I and my colleagues constantly challenge ourselves to serve all children because the early years are so critical in forming social constructs that will persist for a lifetime.
October 12, 2012 |
As Chaz Bono recounted his transformation from cute little daughter of singers Sonny and Cher to the 43-year-old transgender man standing at the lectern, students at Penn State Abington found pieces of their own stories. For Richard Kirchenbauer, 60, it was the memory of seeing a 4-year-old Chastity Bono in Sonny Bono's arms during a performance at the old Valley Forge Music Fair. For Seonne Baylor, 23, it was coming out as a lesbian to her parents. For Erin Donnelly, 18, it was accepting a cousin who announced that she was pansexual.
April 22, 2000 |
No cases of tuberculosis that were feared to have spread to the transgender, cross-dressing community of Philadelphia have been reported, and officials remain cautiously optimistic. "It's a very good sign, but it's still very important to get the word out about this very contagious disease and to get those who may have contracted it the proper care," said Cynthia Glocker, a health communications specialist for the Centers for Disease Control. The CDC confirmed 26 active cases and 37 latent cases of tuberculosis in New York City and Baltimore and discovered that all were members of a community comprised of cross-dressers, those who had undergone sex-change operations, and those who were considering a sex-change operation.
November 4, 2010
NOT SURPRISINGLY, the most candid person in Washington isn't a politician. It's Kye Allums, a transgender member of the George Washington women's basketball team. Yesterday, Allums - who said he is "a male on a female team" - shared his story with the media. He said he decided to talk about his situation because "it got too tough to not be me. " Allums, a 21-year-old junior from suburban Minneapolis, said he has delayed having steroid treatments and/or surgery so that he can stay on the women's team.